I’m not hot……I’m beautiful.
As a woman, I compare my looks to other women. We all do it and if you say you don’t or haven’t, you’re lying. We all have done it and/or continue to do it. It is something that takes a ton of effort not to do. We are our own worst critics.
I’m not one of the “hot girls”, I’m not desired by men at first glance. You know the girls, the ones that are scantily clad in their bikinis, body toned everywhere it should be, and summer tan that glows off the sand. The girls that men fawn after. The girls that know they won’t have to pay for any alcohol…ever? Yeah thats NOT me.
At first glance to men ON A SCALE FROM 1-10, I’m a 6.5, 7 at best. I have had 4 kidS and have the furthest thing from a “toned” body. I DO wear a bikini and I accessorize it with stretch marks.
I learned that there IS a “Hotness Scale” from 1-10. This scale is based upon outer appearance; How you look in your bikini, how flawless your makeup is, how sun kissed tan you are, how perfectly fixed your long blonde hair is, and then how likely you are to let a random guy F you. That my friends is how guys view the “Hotness Scale”. I don’t know about you, but I DON’T want to be on THAT scale.
I don’t want to be hot, I want to be beautiful. I want people to value my mind rather than my boobs. I want people to feel my infectious vibes and help them to be happier in their day to day. I want people to realize that beauty is MORE than skin deep.
Beauty is an aura that you radiate from the inside out. It comes from the deepest part of your core. People can see it in your eyes; the glow of sunshine. The confidence in who you are and the ability to know your worth. Your value should always be higher than your fears.
Let’s be real, does anyone want a lasting relationship that is purely based off of physical “beauty”? I am married, but if I had to start over, it wouldn’t be with anyone that is superficial. Ladies reading this, if you’re single, don’t look for the douche canoes that hang out in bars.
The most important thing is in order to be able to be loved, you have to love yourself. The size of your pants shouldn’t dictate the happiness in the person that you are.